top of page
Aria DeMaris

A Soulful Dive into the Power of Self-Love 💖

It's officially February, a.k.a. the month of love, sparkles, and heart-shaped everything! But I want to sprinkle this month with a whole lot of self-love magic! I've never been one to vibe with the whole commercial aspect of the Valentine's extravaganza, so instead I’d like to flip the script and dive headfirst into the adventure of self-love! Let’s turn February into a month-long love experience!

Self-love has the incredible power to utterly transform our lives in the most amazing and cool ways!


Life is a crazy dance, and in the midst of all the hustle and bustle, we sometimes forget to dance with the most important person in the room – ourselves! Self-love is like a never-ending dance party, where we embrace our quirks, flaunt our flaws, and rock out to the beat of our authentic selves. It's about finding the rhythm within our own hearts and moving to the beat of our authentic selves.


Why Self-Love is a Remedy for the Soul

Self-love is not a luxury; it's a necessity. It acts as a soothing balm for the wounds we carry, a gentle reminder that we are worthy of our own love and affection. When we move to the rhythm of self-love, to nurture a loving relationship with ourselves, we create a strong foundation that empowers us to navigate life's challenges with grace and resilience. Let's illuminate the path to self-love, because in reality, the heart is the gateway to the soul.


The Mirror of Reflection: Practicing Self-Compassion


Take a moment to gaze into the mirror of your own reflection. What do you see? Embrace the quirks, wink at imperfections, and give yourself a high-five for the epic journey you've been on. This whole being human on earth thing can be a lot at times! So declare your worth and capabilities, remind yourself of the strength, resilience, and unique brilliance that makes you the rockstar you are. Self-love isn't about perfection; think of it more like a masterpiece, and you're the paintbrush creating and embracing the most fabulous version of YOU.


Cultivating self-love is a transformative and ongoing journey that involves nurturing a positive and compassionate relationship with oneself. So how do we nurture and strengthen self compassion and love for ourselves? Below are some practical steps for simple acts of self-love to help you get in touch with self-love.


Showering Yourself with the Love and Affection you Deserve:


Daily Positive Affirmations:


First up, let's kick off each day with a burst of positivity! Dropping positive affirmations challenge those sneaky self-sabotaging thoughts, so repeat affirmations that reinforce your self-worth and capabilities. Remind yourself of your strength, resilience, and unique brilliance. Repeat after me: "I'm a powerhouse of awesomeness!"


Come up with your own powerful affirmations or use a few of these to get started:

“Every day, I'm unleashing my inner sunshine, becoming more self-loving and radiant.”“I am resilient adaptable and equipped with any challenge that comes my way.”

"Celebrating achievements, big and small, fuels my ongoing progress."

"I honor the person I am becoming, acknowledging growth and transformation."

"Choosing love over fear is my compass in every situation."

"My worth is intrinsic; external validation doesn't define me."

"I embrace my imperfections, and recognize that they make me unique."

"I release self-doubt, choosing to dance with self-confidence."

"My self-love magnetizes positivity and good things into my life."

"I am deserving of respect and acceptance, and I set healthy boundaries."

"I forgive myself, others, and past mistakes, as I learn and grow from each experience."

"Navigating challenges, I trust in my ability to persevere."

"Surrounded by love and support, I cultivate a positive environment."

"Releasing negativity, I make space for a mindset of positivity and growth."

"Worthy of self-care, I nourish myself with compassion and kindness."



Love Letters to Yourself:

Take a moment each month (especially this one) to pen down a love letter to yourself. Let the ink of gratitude flow, expressing admiration for the magical qualities that define the extraordinary YOU.


Inner Child Healing in the Garden of Serenity Exercise:

Picture yourself in a serene garden, where the flowers whisper secrets, birds share melodies, and the sun casts a warm, comforting glow. Now, invite your inner child or inner teen to join this sacred space. Embrace them in this radiant love, showering them with the light of attention and safety. Listen to what they have to say, feel what needs to be felt, and offer the reassurance they seek. Let them know that you and this garden are a haven where they are safe, acknowledged, significant, and dearly loved.


Sacred Nature Walks:

Take a stroll in nature and relish in the beauty around you. Mother Nature, whispers gentle reminders of your intrinsic worth. Cast your eyes on the canvas of the sky, the clouds, the radiant sunshine, and the unyielding trees. Witness the birds soaring gracefully, feel the air on your skin, and let the wind tenderly caress your face. Recognize the profound connection weaving through you, nature, and the vast universe.


Gentle Self-Compassion:

Treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding you’d offer a friend facing challenges. Shift the lens on mistakes and failures—view them not as setbacks but as invaluable lessons, stepping stones sculpting your growth. They serve to strengthen your resilience and refine your approach to the beautiful dance of life. Dive deeper into this transformative journey in the next point.


Learn and Grow:

Consider challenges as invitations to blossom, not as failures. Adopt a growth mindset, recognizing that life is an ever-evolving classroom. Regard these hurdles not as roadblocks but as signals from the Universe, God, angels, or your spirit team, guiding you toward something even more extraordinary.


Nurturing Boundaries:

Setting boundaries is paramount to your self-care and self-love practice—a lesson I'm currently navigating especially at this time in my life! Master the graceful art of saying 'no' when necessary, a powerful act of self-respect. Acknowledge where and with whom you feel accepted, appreciated, acknowledged, and choose your circle wisely.


Prioritize Your Harmony:

Elevate your well-being and honor your own needs in this beautiful melody of life. Become your own conductor of your well-being. This might entail taking some quick dance breaks during your day, savoring bites of joy-whatever that might be for you, infusing laughter into your day, or spending time alone in the peace and calmness of your sacred space.


Surround Yourself with Positivity:

This is another part of boundary setting. Trim down the negativity, whether it's in relationships, media, or the chatter inside your own head to truly experience a boundary setting glow up. Take it up a notch by creating a squad of folks who not only appreciate but celebrate your unique magic. Remember, not everyone will appreciate or even acknowledge your magic, especially the sensitive, empathic and even misfit or “weird” types like myself, and many of you. Embrace your inner misfit, surround yourself with the weird and wonderful, and let the muggles do their thing while you shine bright with your magical tribe! As Sue Fitzmaurice says, “Being a little weird is just a natural side-effect of being awesome,” and I couldn't agree more! I always found that the quiet, or misfit, misunderstood and strange types are always the most deep, unique, and interesting kinds or people.


Champion Imperfections:

Let's play the perfection rebellion game! Perfection is totally overrated and practically the snooze button of life. Imagine a world where everyone's flawlessly perfect – yawn... Instead, rock those quirks, celebrate the charming chaos, and let imperfections be the spice that makes life exciting. Notice the little quirks in yourself and others, but slap on a coat of love, sprinkle some compassion, and embrace imperfections like confetti at a party. Life's more fun when you dance with the imperfect beats, yours and everyone else's!


Cherish Your Emotions:

Acknowledge your feelings without the judgmental side-eye – each emotion is a VIP guest at your life party. None of them define the fabulous masterpiece that is you; they're just temporary visitors passing through. Picture them as ocean waves, gracefully ebbing and flowing, soft as a gentle caress on the sand or bold as waves crashing against the rocks. Like the ocean's waves, your emotions add depth to the unique journey of your life. So, ride the waves, honor the feels, and let each emotion be a fleeting star in your cosmic experience.


Zen in the Now:

Dive into practices like meditation or the art of mindful breathing – your ticket to the front row of present-moment living. Picture it as a mental spa day: clear thoughts for fresh feelings, and no entanglements. Become the Sherlock Holmes of your mind, aware of thoughts and feelings without getting caught up in their drama. Imagine it as a stroll in the present moment park – no past, no future, just the beautiful now. So, breathe in the zen vibes, exhale the chaos, and let mindful awareness be your VIP pass to the daily show of life.


Gratitude Practice:

Take a gratitude stroll through the garden of your life, pausing to smell the blooming roses. Regularly dish out thanks for the little joys – be it the air you breathe, the sip of water that quenches your thirst, or the delightful dance of sunlight. Each day, dish out a dose of gratitude, transforming your focus from 'not enough' to 'more than plenty.' It's a simple shift that opens the heart to abundance, turning the mundane into a chorus of thankfulness. Tell someone how grateful you are for them being in your life, I do this often because I have the most amazing soul family a person could ever have. Let gratitude focus be part of your daily practice. This simple yet powerful act shifts your focus from scarcity to abundance. It also opens your heart to appreciate more of life!


Blissful Me-Time:

Time to pamper the star of the show – you! Dive into self-care rituals like it's a personal spa day for your soul. Indulge in a warm bubble bath, savor bites of joy, lose yourself in a good book, or let nature be your therapist on a calming walk. Consider self-care not a luxury but a VIP essential in your daily agenda. Picture it as your soul's way of saying, "You're worth it!" So, let the blissful me-time become a non-negotiable part of your routine, ensuring each day is sprinkled with moments of joy and relaxation.


Forgive, Release and Relieve:

Release the weight of past mistakes because forgiveness is your golden ticket to freedom. Recognize that oopsies happen to everyone, and guess what? They're like growth vitamins for your soul. Embrace each stumble as a stepping stone to becoming even more of the wonderful person you are. So, give yourself a hearty dose of self-forgiveness, let go of that baggage, and move forward with the lightness of someone who knows they're constantly evolving. Your past may be a part of your story, but your future is a masterpiece still being written.


Self-Reflection:

Make self-reflection a date with your goals, values, and dreams. Imagine it as a rendezvous with your authentic self – the true star in the room. Regularly check in on your aspirations, aligning each action with the beat of your unique rhythm. It's like having a compass pointed toward your true north. So, let these reflective moments be the compass guiding you on the adventure of connecting deeper with the fabulous person you're becoming. It's not just a date; it's a celebration of your authentic, evolving self!


Inspiring Others on the Journey: Share Your Self-Love Story

Your self-love journey is a beacon for others setting sail on their own path of self-discovery. Light up the way by sharing your stories – the highs, lows, and triumphant crescendos. Your experiences are the roadmap guiding fellow wanderers toward their own radiant selves.


Professional Support - Your Compass in Self-Love Navigation:


Remember, the self-love odyssey is a continuous adventure, and seeking support is a strength, not a setback. Be your own cheerleader, but don't hesitate to enlist a professional co-pilot. If self-love feels like a puzzle missing a piece, consider reaching out to a life coach therapist, or counselor. These guides offer valuable tools for navigating the twists and turns of self-discovery. Feel free to reach out to me for a chat – I'm here to be your co-captain on this extraordinary journey of self-love and life.


As we wrap up this soulful expedition into self-love, remember this: the love you shower upon yourself is a magnetic force, drawing in love, abundance, and miracles into your life. Treasure every step of this enchanting journey, and let the radiant love within your heart become a guiding light, illuminating the world around you.


In closing I’d like to offer you an invitation to our upcoming masterclass, "A Love Letter to Yourself," on February 14th. Dive into an hour of transformation, where we'll embark on a journey of healing meditation, soulful journaling, and powerful soul retrieval. Join us for a session that promises to cradle your spirit and illuminate the path to self-love.


Let's stride hand in hand on this path – a shared adventure of self-love, self-discovery, and boundless joy. Because, in the grand finale, as we fill our own cups with love, we inadvertently teach others the art of loving us too. Here's to a harmonious symphony of self-love that echoes far and wide!


Ready to join the love-filled rendezvous? Sign up to read more and secure your spot at the following link: https://www.universoulrising.com/selflovemasterclass


With love and light,

Aria

Comments


bottom of page
Privacy Policy Cookie Policy